We all live our lives to our fullest capabilities to seek nothing but happiness and fulfillment. We keep telling ourselves that the most crucial thing in life is to have balance, isn't it? What if I tell you that a well-balanced life is insanely impossible to achieve?
Like trying to catch a shadow
Ever tried to chase a shadow?
I mean, not literally.
During the process to achieve a well-balanced life, we will always (and I really mean all..the..time) realized that we tend to spend most of our efforts doing things that we prioritize the most.
For example, I've always thought of myself having a well-balanced life, or so I believe.
I do my best to maintain my fitness. I do read books (mostly on marketing and coaching), write blogs, create videos, and start my own business to improve my intellect.
I have a full-time job that provides me with a stable monthly income, so I can eat and pay the bills. I also do prayers and meditation to keep myself at peace, and I take breaks once in a while to relieve stress.
And according to my perspective, I live a well-balanced life, but who am I kidding?
I'm actually struggling to perform my prayers on time and to learn more about my religion when I have deadlines to meet for my business.
I get fatigued and have very bad body aches after a workout session with not much rest in between my full-time job and business meetings.
I can't sleep well due to stress and a heartburn problem.
I don't really spend much time with my family these days, as I'm obsessed with my goals in life.
Not so balanced, huh?
Life Is Like Trying To Juggle 10 Balls On A Unicycle While Avoiding Knives Being Thrown At You On A Balancing Beam And The Beam Is On A Ball And The Juggling Balls Are On Fire, The Beam Is on Fire, Everything Is ON fire!
Here's what I believe.
We can strive to lead a well-balanced life, but the actual fact is life itself was made to be imbalanced and unfair.
Think about it.
Your fulltime job already takes up 8 hours of your day, and what about overtime and commute? That's about 11 hours gone. Then, you still have to wash up, prepare for dinner, clean the house, and rest. These activities might take another 2 hours of your time. If you have kids, then you may need to spend some time with them. That'd take up another hour to settle, and now you're left with 9-10 hours for the day, and by that time, you'd be only thinking about Netflix and chill.
No matter how you look at it, there are things we have to compromise to achieve certain things in life.
Maybe instead of juggling the balls, we could put the balls down to avoid the knives first, if you know what I mean.
Sometimes, the beam will slant to one side as we focus on spending time with our family.
Sometimes, it'll lean more towards being financially free when we focus on doing overtime and side-hustles.
Sometimes, it'll lean towards being physically healthy as we spend more time exercising and preparing meals.
And, sometimes it topples over when you feel overwhelmed with everything.
So, in the end, I gave up trying to lead a balanced life; instead, I focused on the things that empower me to be a better and happier person and to live in the "Now."
Very generic, right? It is meant to be so.
Spend Less Time Calculating And Analyzing Your Life. You'd Be Happier That Way
When I spend less of my time calculating and analyzing how I should balance everything in life, I feel lighter on the inside.
Amazingly, I start to see smiles on people's faces more often than deadlines on my calendar.
What's the use of chasing a life I wish to have when the process towards that goal is not making me happy?
Life is short. I rather spend it on things that make me happy.
I still go to the gym, but if I have to skip it because I feel tired, so be it.
I still have a business to run, but if I fail to achieve my KPI, so be it.
What's the worst thing that could happen? No profits gained? Small biceps?
As I said before, I rather gain happiness than to focus on gaining profits or being a muscle head.
You can call me lazy or unproductive or that I don't dream big enough, and I will reply," Yes..You are definitely right about that, and that and that too."
It doesn't matter to me anymore. But, does that mean that I am not putting in the effort to succeed in life?
All I can say is, follow my IG story and Fb story, and you be the judge to see whether I am trying my best or not.
What About You?
You may have your own goals in life to achieve. It might be to lose weight or to build a business.
Ask yourself this question first, do you think it's worth compromising other aspects of your life to achieve your goals?
If you think so, are the things you have been focusing on so far helping you to get closer to your life goals?
If not, then you might facing some resistance towards change. Maybe you are having some limiting beliefs or limiting factors that are stopping you from doing the required steps?
If you realize that you have things that are stopping you from achieving your goals, why not drop me an email, maybe I can help you find clarity on what you can do to achieve your goals in life:D
Zaid Omar is the founder and writer of this blog.. He is someone who values being the best version of himself with regards to his Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual aspects.